In the era where the president of one of the most powerful countries in the world publicly talks about disrespecting women and has been accused by not one , but multiple people of sexual abuse , sadly , there is no surprise when people come out with their own stories where they have been sexually harassed and/or assaulted.In a recording filmed in 2005 of the current president of America, his language denotes his lack of respect for the opposite sex. Trump didn’t just say that he’d made a pass; he “moved on her like a bitch.” He didn’t just talk about fondling women; he bragged that he could “grab ’em by their private parts.”To think about the fact that a man with such a horrible mindset managed to become the president caused so much anger that The Women’s March took place the day after his Inauguration, people uniting to show their anger in regard to his misogyny.
Though, a lot of people wonder why the victims are only now sharing their stories. Truth is , now they have an opportunity they didn’t have before. Their voices are actually heard now and actions are being taken.The problem of sexual abuse didn’t just start this year. This has been a problem for the longest time .The MeToo movement wasn’t born this year either . This movement has been founded all the way back in 2006 by Tarana Burke.Her focus was , and still is to help survivors of sexual violence. Using the idea of “empowerment through empathy,” the me too. movement was ultimately created to ensure survivors know they’re not alone in their journey.
You think this is a small problem? Think again.Did you know that 17,700,000 women have reported a sexual assault since 1998 ?? 17,700,000 women ! And these are just the women that have filed reports ,not taking in calculation the many more women that were , and still are too afraid to speak up . Though , this is not a problem only females face as men have been victims as well.
But changes are being made. time Magazine paid an homage to all the victims by naming”The Silence Breakers” as person of the year 2017, to those who spoke out against sexual violence and harassment as part of the viral #MeToo Movement. This honor is given annually to the person or people who have most influenced the news during the past year. Tarana Burke, founder of the #MeToo movement released the following statement regarding the news “For too long, survivors of sexual assault and harassment have been in the shadows. We have been afraid to speak up, to say ‘Me Too’ and seek accountability. For many, the consequences of doing so have been devastating,” .
Did you know that 40 years ago there was no name for the term “sexual harassment” ? The term was first used in 1975 by a group of women at Cornell University after an employee there, Carmita Wood, filed for unemployment benefits after she had resigned because a supervisor touched her. The university denied her claim, arguing that she left the job for “personal reasons.”
Amongst all the public figures who’ve been accused of sexual misconduct many allegations have been towards Harvey Weinstein. Ashley Judd talks about her experience with Harvey after he sexually abused her “I started talking about Harvey the minute that it happened,” Judd says in an interview with time. “Literally, I exited that hotel room at the Peninsula Hotel in 1997 and came straight downstairs to the lobby, where my dad was waiting for me, because he happened to be in Los Angeles from Kentucky, visiting me on the set. And he could tell by my face that something devastating had happened to me. I told him. I told everyone.”
As I said above , not only women are victims of this problem, but men as well. Terry Crews , a wonderful actor who some people might recognize from “Brooklyn-Nine-Nine”, opened up about his experience in his interview in time. He sued his agent Adam Venit and William Morris Endeavor for sexual assault.”People were saying,You should have beaten him up.’ I’m like, Why is nobody questioning him? Nobody questions the predator. You know why? Because they just expect it. And I expect it. And I just said, ‘No more.’ Why are you questioning the victim here? Let’s flip it.Let’s talk about what the predator is doing.”
These are just some of the many examples I can give. This false sense of entitlement has fallen over the many and it hurts people. No one should be allowed to make you do something you don’t agree with. No one should have any right over what you do , say , wear or decide. More and more stories buried inside the heart of victims for so long are finally reaching the surface . Victims finally get to have a voice and use their story to let the others know that there in nothing to be ashamed of and that it can happen to anyone. Help in times of need for the victims can always be found . You can call anonymously the Sexual Assault Hotline at safehelpline.org or reach out to rainn.org , the largest anti-sexual violence organisation and so many more. As a society, we should stop shaming the victim and blame the abuser . We can do so much better. We have to do better for the sake of all the victims that have suffered . We have to speak up because in unity , there is strength.